| "body"> | | | | myself during the marriage. Without hesitation I |
| Going through a divorce is going to be a very | | | | told her a charm bracelet and a collection of |
| tough time for anyone, especially if you really | | | | charms. I have always admired charm bracelets |
| didn't want the divorce in the first place. Too | | | | but never found the time to get one started for |
| often one person wants a divorce while the other | | | | myself. |
| wants to try to work out the marriage, definitely | | | | For homework after that session the therapist |
| resulting in a winner and loser in an already | | | | told me to go out and select a bracelet, plus look |
| stressful time. Sometimes both people want the | | | | through the charms to find symbols that would |
| divorce and are able to work things out on their | | | | help me deal with my divorce in a non-violent and |
| own and just go their own way but still stay | | | | productive way. I didn't really know what she |
| friends. | | | | meant, but off I went to the jewelry store. |
| Unfortunately in my divorce I certainly wasn't able | | | | I chose a gold bracelet and went with gold |
| to continue to be friends with my ex-husband. Its | | | | charms, and I was surprised at how some of |
| not that I wouldn't have liked that, I really would | | | | them just caught my eye. I thought of all the |
| have. I just couldn't forgive him for how he hurt | | | | revenge feelings I had been having, and bought |
| me through the divorce, but I never actually | | | | gold charms to represent each one. |
| lashed out at him in any way. | | | | Just a few of the charms I added to my bracelet |
| I found out a few months ago that my husband | | | | include a hammer to symbolize rebuilding my life, |
| was having an affair. I guess I should say he | | | | a gold revolver to symbolize my feelings of anger |
| finally told me on the same day he moved out | | | | and a small gold clock charm to represent my lost |
| and told me he was filing for divorce. The very | | | | time. |
| next week I was served with divorce papers, I | | | | I am not finished with my collection, but now |
| just couldn't believe his nerve. | | | | whenever I feel angry I go buy a charm to |
| I decided to go and talk to someone about how | | | | represent that anger and get it out of my |
| angry I was feeling. The therapist was a woman | | | | system. By the end of my shopping spree my |
| and she really did provide a lot of help. She asked | | | | gold charms are telling me a story and I know I |
| me what I had always wanted and never got for | | | | am starting to feel better already. |