| I first heard about push presents in an advertising | | | | push present, there is no universal etiquette for |
| campaign. Of course, like most women I liked the | | | | the custom. The new father purchases a gift of |
| idea of my husband showing me he appreciated | | | | some sort, typically jewelry, for the new mother |
| what I'd gone through with pregnancy and labor. I | | | | after the baby is born as a thank you for |
| started to research more about the idea. What I | | | | "pushing" his baby out. The custom is common in |
| found surprised me. There is almost as much | | | | India where gold is the usual gift and in England |
| resistance to the custom as there are supporters. | | | | where eternity bands are popular. |
| Many opponents felt that the baby should be gift | | | | American celebrities seem to have caught on to |
| enough and that women who desired push | | | | the trend as well. For example, Tori Spelling's |
| presents were being ridiculous, entitlistic, and | | | | husband Dean McDurmott gave her a fifteen |
| greedy. This caused me to reexamine my own | | | | hundred dollar diaper bag when their son Liam |
| motives. Did I want a push present for the sake | | | | was born. Gwyneth Paltrow received a "mama" |
| of the gift? | | | | pendent necklace, Sarah Jessica Parker and Kate |
| No. I like the idea of a push present far more | | | | Hudson got gold charm bracelets, while Jennifer |
| than the actual gift itself. I'm willing to bet many | | | | Gardner was the recipient of a gold necklace with |
| women feel the same way. I want my husband | | | | a diamond initial charm. |
| to appreciate what I did the same way he wants | | | | What do you think of the idea of a push present? |
| me to appreciate when he accomplishes | | | | Is it too greedy for woman to want her husband |
| something difficult. The gift is secondary to that. | | | | to get her a gift? What about the idea that it is |
| Sure jewelry or flowers are nice and sure the gift | | | | an heirloom you can pass down to your child? Is |
| makes a great heirloom to pass down to your | | | | occasionally helping with the baby enough of a |
| new child, but most of all I want my husband's | | | | gift? Wouldn't it be nice for a new dad to show |
| appreciation and support. | | | | his appreciation to the new mom in a tangible |
| Although in some families it is a tradition to give a | | | | way? |