| For couples that cannot for some reason or | | | | you ever noticed that some people light up when |
| another have children of their own an adoption | | | | they smile? |
| may be the last resort. If you are yearning for a | | | | When you write your letter to the birth mother |
| baby of your own to hold in your arms and want | | | | share with her how you and your husband met |
| a birth mother to understand just how much this | | | | and how long you have known each other. Talk |
| means to you, then make sure you make every | | | | about your hopes and dreams for a child. Talk |
| effort to let her know what a precious gift this | | | | about your extended family. Most birth mothers |
| would be. Several websites offer this service and | | | | would like their child to have grandparents and |
| an open adoption is a way to get to know the | | | | aunts and uncles. Pictures of your home will be |
| birth mother and for her to get to know the | | | | interesting to her so she will know what kind of |
| people who will be raising her child. If this is done | | | | home the baby will be raised in. Tell her about |
| with thought and feeling, it can be a successful | | | | your careers or if you want to be a stay at |
| transition for everyone involved. | | | | home mom let her know that. If you already |
| Make sure that when you choose your profile | | | | have a child or are going to try to adopt more |
| picture for the mother-to-be that you use the | | | | than one this may be important information. Then |
| very best pictures you have that show you and | | | | she will know if her child will have a brother or |
| your husband as you are today. If you do not like | | | | sister to grow up with. |
| any of the ones you currently have, take some | | | | Let her know what your religious beliefs are and if |
| more. Make sure they are focused correctly so | | | | you attend church. This may be a really important |
| that you do not appear too far away or fuzzy. | | | | part of her choice. Basically, what you want to do |
| Wear nice clothes. You don’t have to look like | | | | is make the best first impression that you can |
| you are going to a party but wear clothes that | | | | make. This is what will be first considered and will |
| say you can afford to dress tastefully. After all, if | | | | be the deciding factor on whether the birth |
| you can’t afford to dress nicely, how are you | | | | mother will want to know anything else about |
| going to raise a child? Smile with your eyes as | | | | you. So put your best foot forward and try to |
| well as your mouth. People who are genuinely | | | | convey what this wonderfully precious gift would |
| happy smile with more than their mouth. Have | | | | mean to you and your spouse. |